Stronger Reality Wins. Always.
Have you ever been told, that there are some things in life, which you can’t change. Or maybe you’ve thought it yourself. One way or the other, this is as true, as it is not. Again, it is what you choose it to be.
When two people are talking, there is a dialog between their realities.
You think you can pretend to be something you’re not? Deep down inside, your reality stays the same. Pretending is useless.
The point is – there is always one of the two people who has the dominant reality. All that matters is how strong he/she believes that this is how things are. No matter if he is highly successful, or just a poor failure in life, he will be sure, that he knows how the world works. Of course this is a matter of how optimal his beliefs are, and not how strong. So whenever someone tells you a limiting belief, it may be because of the emotional weight this person is carrying. This can make his reality strong, but it’s far from optimal. This can be a bitch, when you are trying to think positively. 
What happens in every dialog between two people is that the one with dominant reality will act based on his desires. The other one will either adopt the stronger way of thinking, or he’ll try to resist, reacting in an emotional and very negative way. I bet you can think of many occasions, when that happened to you.
You can do 2 things to change that. First – act in a confident and calm way, when people are telling you negative things. Become an observer of their inner stress – since now YOU have a stronger reality, you’ll start to see emotional reactions from them. Now you’re the one who acts, and he/she reacts to you. That confidence in your reality comes from within, not from any proof you get from the outside world.
Get this right – there is no need to experiment with the strength of your reality. It isn’t helpful. It’s just a way to get past the negative people without becoming an emotional wreck.
What must prevail in your life, are people with optimal mindset, just like you.
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