There are two ways to achieve state – physical and emotional. Each one of them works in a different way, but in the end you achieve the same goal. How to do it? Read on…

The physical way is when you get into state as a result of your actions. Fake it until you make it, as some might say. And that’s exactly right. By “pretending” that you are in state, you will actually achieve it. It takes only a moment, and before you know it you regain back your confidence and optimism.

The emotional way is a little bit different, but it is again faking first. It is different for everybody, I guess, but anyway… You express the emotions that you would when in state. You never stop to think what others think of you, and this is key. It is not about what to do next, it is about where do you want to go?

The whole “faking” thing has a negative vibe attached to it. Maybe it is because some perceive it as if you have to pretend you are somebody else. Actually, you can be a different person every single second.

There is no sign that tells you how to behave. It is a thing we decide. And if your algorithm for making decision has changed, why is that faking? And indeed, at one point it will start feeling natural. Actually, it will be natural.

Since you were born, you observe your environment, and you learn how to react. Your only way to interact with this world, is by imitating the interactions of those, who on the surface seem to know what they’re doing. That’s not the case almost every single time.

You are not responsible for your actions at the age of three, not even at the age of 10. You haven’t seen enough patterns about how to behave, and how to react. That’s some kind of explanation, although I doubt it.

However, after a certain age, you have seen a lot. I bet, that you’ve seen some pretty successful people. Or people, who are bound to succeed. They react to things in a certain way, very different than the “normal people”. And this is actually the only natural way there is.

When you react to something, it is usually on an other than conscious level. You just know how to react, even if this means to suffer. One person feels bad when things don’t turn the way he wants. Another is just pushed towards striving for perfection with even more passion. Both of them are reacting – only one of them is really acting.

Is there a reason NOT to act? Just look at the big picture, and do what you do with passion and focus. Do things, because you see the meaning behind them, and not because this is a habit you don’t have a will to break. That’s not a valid reason, and you know it!

That will never happen. The sense of integrity comes from within. Desire is something different, something much more aligned with the laws of our universe.

Desire is filled with passion. It’s never something you need. It is something you enjoy, something that you do, and something that you feel. And on some subtle level, you see the meaning of it all, and that is so powerful.

Can you always find a motivation to do what you “have/need” to do? Never.
You are looking in the wrong place. Motivation is something rational, and your mind is not.

You are moved by desire, and the experience you go through is called life. It’s not something you can find, because you either see it, or you don’t. Your goal is not something you can describe with words, your success is just a side effect.

It never was about you. Desire doesn’t care who you are. Give up your ego, give up every concept of yourself, forget everything. Be in the moment, crave the experience and just make it all happen. There is nothing more important than that. If you feel there is, then you’re just feeding energy where it doesn’t belong.

Letting your desire free is nothing more than a habit. It builds up with time, and at one point it reaches critical mass, and then you explode. All the limits you once had are now gone in the past. Do you want that reality for you? Then choose it!

Your comfort zone is the place in your head where you feel comfortable. The place, where everything you believe is true. It NEVER matters if that reality you live in is optimal. Your mind is shouting at you “You are still alive, arent you? As far as you know, if you change, you might die!!!” That’s bullshit.

That was surely helpful some millions of years ago, when your hardest (and only) challenge was to survive at all costs. Now you’ve evolved. Get used to it. That evolution gives you power, and with power comes responsibility. (Spidey, you rule! )

If you don’t accept it, the decisions you make in your life are based on instincts, that are no longer up to date. I’m not saying not to follow your instincts. Most of them are still valid in every area of your life. That’s a topic for a different post.

Staying out of your comfort zone becomes a habit – there is no other way. Once that happens, it will be tough, but damn it’s powerful. Every time you fear doing something different, that doesn’t mean there is something to fear. But be sure, that there is always something to gain. You’ll never know what you’re missing until you see it. If you don’t do that, later you’ll look back and regret that.

Is failure what you’re really afraid of? Is it?
Have you ever experienced real failure? Not really. The only way to fail in ANYTHING is to give up. And to have the opportunity to give up, you have to first try. And if you don’t give up… surprise, surprise – you can’t fail. You’ve failed when you say you have. And there is no point in doing that, is there?

Everything you can think of, that makes you worried, is only a thought. It is never something you have to deal with right now. And if it’s not right now, then you have no control over it and yet you feel the need to do something about it. No wonder you start feeling helpless at some point.

The other source of bad emotions is the past. No matter if that’s 20 years or 20 minutes ago. Letting go of the past is crucial if you want to live a happy life. Holding on to it can limit your potential. We’re talking about the bad things here. You CAN let go of them. Blaming others for things you’ve attracted is like denying your power to create your reality.

All you have is the present, and if you’re waiting for some future moment when everything will be nice and sunny, you’ll never reach it. If you see the present as some obstacle between you and your happiness, then that happiness will never come. The present holds your only means to get where you want, and if you deny that, you’ll never go anywhere. If you accept it, the sky is the limit.

1. You become a better seller. If you’re in selling, then the change will be profound. Up to now chances are, that you did what you did expecting to get some kind of positive reaction. That’s no longer necessary. Now you’ve got the strong reality, and you aren’t asking your client for anything. Now he wants to be in your reality, and in your reality there is a product he’s currently missing. The client can react negatively, but if that happens, then he never needed your product anyway.

2. You become better at dating. I bet you’re always trying to impress your date when you’re going out. That’s never going to happen. She is much smarter than you, remember that. You can’t fool her, because on some level you are going to show signals, that don’t match with the person who you’re trying to be. She will notice that, be sure of it. So instead of trying to be someone you’re not, be yourself, and be comfortable about it.

3. Personal relationships are much more harmonic. You are not afraid to be who you are. If you were, then you’d hate your relatives/girlfriend/wife for not letting you be who you are. While actually, no one is stopping you. Except yourself that is.

4. You always know where you are going. Most people are doing more than one thing at a time. They are nervous, because they have so much to do, and it never gets done. That’s because they have to think about what other people think of them. As a result they do so many things that cripple them while on their way to their goal.

5. Where you are going is up to you. People will tell you, that you’re now an adult. And as an adult, you have to take care of your responsibilities first, and in what’s left of your time do what you want. That’s bullshit. If you’re married, or in a serious relationship, and you want to change, then just do it. Is it better to be less than what you want to be, only to keep some relationship. And besides, nobody said that your spouse won’t approve your change.

Maybe you’re thinking that this way of living is somewhat egocentric. Well, not really. Are leaders egocentric? People follow them, because they see their integrity. And this is the quality, that will breathe a feeling of safety in every person. That’s priceless. Only when you feel safe, you are able to go for what you desire. What you’ve done is to encourage other people to follow their dreams as well. Now is that really that much egocentric?

Have you ever heard somebody say “If you know what I’ve been through, then you’d know why I’m not able to do that.” Or maybe you say it yourself. There is only one profound change you have to make. Get over it!!!

It’s not hard, not at all. It’s the process of letting go what sets your spirit free. Every past event that while remembering you respond with negative emotions is that kind of limit. Your being isn’t fully present.

Learn to let go of memories. Even better, don’t learn at all, just let them go. Forgive yourself for every stupid thing you ever did. You didn’t know better. Forgive all the bad things anybody did to you – they didn’t know better as well. Only when you do that, you’ll be able to choose your reality. Until then, there will be no choice, because you are stuck in your past.

Being passionate is one of the most powerful advantages we have as humans. It means complete surrendering of the ego – complete focus on your goal and nothing else. This is what we do intuitively as babies and little kids. Then we learn, that we have to get serious in order for people to see how grown up we are. And then… nothing. That’s not were you should be heading. That’s the way to mediocrity.

Have fun in everything you do. Be the one you want to be all the time. Not because it is the right thing to do, not even because this is the optimal way to achieve. The main reason is: because you enjoy it. Then the only thing that can happen is that your vibe spreads. You make a change everywhere you go, because the power you control is beyond measures. This is the power of a true leader.

So just notice what your life is all about right now. If you’re not noticing things you’re passionate about, this is the first step towards attracting some in your life. Passion is NOT the spice of life, it is what life is all about. Whether you are aware of it or not, everything you accomplished was because you were passionate about it. Never resist that, never pay attention to things and people who suppress your passion – they simply don’t have any clue about life, although they think they’ve got it all figured out. Well, if they had, they would be happy right now. So obvious, so simple.

When you’re doing something you don’t want to, is time passing by, or is it like it has stuck in one place. Chances are that life will seem pretty long when you’re doing things you don’t want. What’s wrong with that? Nothing. However, later, you’ll need time for recreation. This is the biggest time-waster of them all. Because once you get in that lazy vibration, you’re done for today.

Time passes by, and you start bitching about how you never have enough time. Does that sound familiar to you? If so, then there is one thing you can do. There is one fancy trick you can use, and it does miracles.

Get Another Job! Get a hobby and make a job out of it! Be your boss, and be your employee.

You no longer resist your reality. And you no longer need time for recreation. Enjoying what you do is the best time saver. I can hear you say “If it was that easy, then how come no one thought of that?”
As much as I appreciate you calling me nobody (kidding ) , there is no need not to trust your own instinct. Society is stupid. Well, most of it is stupid. And the ones that are smart aren’t the same people as the ones who’ll judge you. These people have a lot of hobbies, but preaching the concept of doing what you love ain’t one of them. As far as they’re concerned, you are the only one who creates your reality.

You think you can pretend to be something you’re not? Deep down inside, your reality stays the same. Pretending is useless.

The point is – there is always one of the two people who has the dominant reality.  All that matters is how strong he/she believes that this is how things are. No matter if he is highly successful, or just a poor failure in life, he will be sure, that he knows how the world works. Of course this is a matter of how optimal his beliefs are, and not how strong. So whenever someone tells you a limiting belief, it may be because of the emotional weight this person is carrying. This can make his reality strong, but it’s far from optimal. This can be a bitch, when you are trying to think positively.

What happens in every dialog between two people is that the one with dominant reality will act based on his desires. The other one will either adopt the stronger way of thinking, or he’ll try to resist, reacting in an emotional and very negative way. I bet you can think of many occasions, when that happened to you.

You can do 2 things to change that. First – act in a confident and calm way, when people are telling you negative things. Become an observer of their inner stress – since now YOU have a stronger reality, you’ll start to see emotional reactions from them. Now you’re the one who acts, and he/she reacts to you. That confidence in your reality comes from within, not from any proof you get from the outside world.

Get this right – there is no need to experiment with the strength of your reality. It isn’t helpful. It’s just a way to get past the negative people without becoming an emotional wreck.
What must prevail in your life, are people with optimal mindset, just like you.