Have you ever heard somebody say “If you know what I’ve been through, then you’d know why I’m not able to do that.” Or maybe you say it yourself. There is only one profound change you have to make. Get over it!!!

It’s not hard, not at all. It’s the process of letting go what sets your spirit free. Every past event that while remembering you respond with negative emotions is that kind of limit. Your being isn’t fully present.

Learn to let go of memories. Even better, don’t learn at all, just let them go. Forgive yourself for every stupid thing you ever did. You didn’t know better. Forgive all the bad things anybody did to you – they didn’t know better as well. Only when you do that, you’ll be able to choose your reality. Until then, there will be no choice, because you are stuck in your past.

You think you can pretend to be something you’re not? Deep down inside, your reality stays the same. Pretending is useless.

The point is – there is always one of the two people who has the dominant reality.  All that matters is how strong he/she believes that this is how things are. No matter if he is highly successful, or just a poor failure in life, he will be sure, that he knows how the world works. Of course this is a matter of how optimal his beliefs are, and not how strong. So whenever someone tells you a limiting belief, it may be because of the emotional weight this person is carrying. This can make his reality strong, but it’s far from optimal. This can be a bitch, when you are trying to think positively.

What happens in every dialog between two people is that the one with dominant reality will act based on his desires. The other one will either adopt the stronger way of thinking, or he’ll try to resist, reacting in an emotional and very negative way. I bet you can think of many occasions, when that happened to you.

You can do 2 things to change that. First – act in a confident and calm way, when people are telling you negative things. Become an observer of their inner stress – since now YOU have a stronger reality, you’ll start to see emotional reactions from them. Now you’re the one who acts, and he/she reacts to you. That confidence in your reality comes from within, not from any proof you get from the outside world.

Get this right – there is no need to experiment with the strength of your reality. It isn’t helpful. It’s just a way to get past the negative people without becoming an emotional wreck.
What must prevail in your life, are people with optimal mindset, just like you.

If you really want to find out, here’s what. If you think you know which one you are, then you are intuitive. If you need a test with a) b) c) , you’re grounded.

However, these two qualities have a lot of influence over your reality. They determine whether you will fail every time you are under stress, or you’ll perform at your best as always.

You are in a new reality every single day, no matter who you think you are.
Your beliefs are being questioned, and your reality can either fall apart, or stay as it is. This makes the difference between the outstanding performer, and the average one.

Your beliefs can be a web, where everything is interconnected, but that’s not the only possible way. If that’s what your mind believes, it needs only one trace of doubt in order to fall apart. That’s not the way to get a strong reality.

This is what I’ve finally come to understand. Your beliefs don’t need to make ANY sense. Concepts that are mutually exclusive are usually both right. We live in a world, where nothing stays the same, and you have to adapt. In order to adapt, you have to be able to change your beliefs only one at a time, instead of having a full change, which is impossible.

You don’t need your reality to make sense in a logical way. There isn’t one in the first place! You need the beliefs to keep YOUR personal integrity. And that doesn’t come from the outside world – it comes from within. You don’t need confirmation of your beliefs from the outside, you don’t need anything. It’s again like being attached to the outcome.

Get this in your system, and you’ll have the most powerful and stable reality you ever had. If you feel, that this isn’t a reality, then you may have to rethink your concept of what a reality should be.

What does being needy mean? It’s wrong because of the same reason as the one for “What you resist persists”.

If you don’t want this thing in your life, then you’re actually saying “It’s there”
If you want it badly, then you are saying “It is NOT there!”

You can see why things will never turn out like you want them to, if you keep up with this way of thinking. “The secret” tells you to focus on what you want, but it doesn’t tell you all you need to know.

Being needy makes you attached to the outcome. Being needy is like saying “This is the only chance I’ll get in my life”. Yeah, you have one life, but your chances are unlimited. I don’t care who you are and what you do – whatever you want in your life, there are more ways to accomplish it, than you can possibly imagine. This is the optimal way of thinking – this is the abundance mindset.

You see, everything just clicks as it falls into its place. Feel abundance, and you won’t attach to the outcome. By doing that, you’ll never need that abundance – your rate of success will go way up. This is another counter-intuitive thing about life, at least until you become a natural.

1. The fear you don’t have the energy to do it.

Changing your way of thinking means different vibration. And if you’ve been vibrating on that negative frequency for a while now, it certainly takes a lot of energy to change it. Your mind has the natural tendency to keep your current frequency, because this way there will be less energy loss. (if you remember Newtonian physics, you know how this happens) However, the mind cannot judge which reality is optimal for you. This is where you take action, and believe me – you are not your mind.

2. You feel as if you go back in your understanding of the world

This wasn’t true for me, but is true for some people. Having said that, I feel that the mind can hold on to every explanation to retain its old habits. It doesn’t matter if that explanation is plain stupid – it can, and it most often will make a lot of sense to you. If you know, that this feeling is just an illusion, then you’ll make it through. Otherwise, it will be much harder on you, and it doesn’t have to be. Just know what’s right, and don’t rely on any warm fuzzy feelings (at least that’s what they’ll seem to be). But this is not your intuition, or your unbendable belief that things are OK. This is your mind begging you to let it back in its comfort zone.

3. The fear that people might not accept “the new you”.

It is normal for you to not feel natural when doing things differently. That’s your brain being rewired in a different way. However, the people around you will never question you!

You want to try a simple experiment? Just cross your arms. Then cross them the opposite way. It feels unnatural, right? But the other people can’t notice that.

Once you get into your system, that people will always accept you, it will be easier to make the change you want and deserve.
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As you may have noticed, all of the obstacles are based on emotions. Get rid of emotional thinking, at least until you know how to use it. The emotions, that make the decisions on the behalf of most people, are the negative ones. And you don’t want those as your ally for sure.

It doesn’t apply only to seminars. I remember reading a lot of books, listening to a lot of audio books without ANY of them making the difference. I became good in theory, even very good. But I looked at it as if it was a science, that has to be learned. That is not true.

It’s not the things you know, it’s the mindset you have. The fact that you know stuff doesn’t give you the edge over those who don’t. If you use that knowledge, then yes, they do help. And using the knowledge is a matter of mindset. Do everything you know is right consciously, and you’ll go nuts. As you may know, 98% of what we do is controlled by our subconscious.

Whenever you are learning new things, that you want to use in your life, there is only one way to do it. Don’t get stuck in the words. Do not think, that these words will help you get where you want to go. Words are just an expression of the deep understanding, that the person you’re learning from has. That deep understanding is also called a mindset. This is what you must perceive and adopt as your own.