Since you were born, you observe your environment, and you learn how to react. Your only way to interact with this world, is by imitating the interactions of those, who on the surface seem to know what they’re doing. That’s not the case almost every single time.

You are not responsible for your actions at the age of three, not even at the age of 10. You haven’t seen enough patterns about how to behave, and how to react. That’s some kind of explanation, although I doubt it.

However, after a certain age, you have seen a lot. I bet, that you’ve seen some pretty successful people. Or people, who are bound to succeed. They react to things in a certain way, very different than the “normal people”. And this is actually the only natural way there is.

When you react to something, it is usually on an other than conscious level. You just know how to react, even if this means to suffer. One person feels bad when things don’t turn the way he wants. Another is just pushed towards striving for perfection with even more passion. Both of them are reacting – only one of them is really acting.

Is there a reason NOT to act? Just look at the big picture, and do what you do with passion and focus. Do things, because you see the meaning behind them, and not because this is a habit you don’t have a will to break. That’s not a valid reason, and you know it!

That will never happen. The sense of integrity comes from within. Desire is something different, something much more aligned with the laws of our universe.

Desire is filled with passion. It’s never something you need. It is something you enjoy, something that you do, and something that you feel. And on some subtle level, you see the meaning of it all, and that is so powerful.

Can you always find a motivation to do what you “have/need” to do? Never.
You are looking in the wrong place. Motivation is something rational, and your mind is not.

You are moved by desire, and the experience you go through is called life. It’s not something you can find, because you either see it, or you don’t. Your goal is not something you can describe with words, your success is just a side effect.

It never was about you. Desire doesn’t care who you are. Give up your ego, give up every concept of yourself, forget everything. Be in the moment, crave the experience and just make it all happen. There is nothing more important than that. If you feel there is, then you’re just feeding energy where it doesn’t belong.

Letting your desire free is nothing more than a habit. It builds up with time, and at one point it reaches critical mass, and then you explode. All the limits you once had are now gone in the past. Do you want that reality for you? Then choose it!

Your comfort zone is the place in your head where you feel comfortable. The place, where everything you believe is true. It NEVER matters if that reality you live in is optimal. Your mind is shouting at you “You are still alive, arent you? As far as you know, if you change, you might die!!!” That’s bullshit.

That was surely helpful some millions of years ago, when your hardest (and only) challenge was to survive at all costs. Now you’ve evolved. Get used to it. That evolution gives you power, and with power comes responsibility. (Spidey, you rule! )

If you don’t accept it, the decisions you make in your life are based on instincts, that are no longer up to date. I’m not saying not to follow your instincts. Most of them are still valid in every area of your life. That’s a topic for a different post.

Staying out of your comfort zone becomes a habit – there is no other way. Once that happens, it will be tough, but damn it’s powerful. Every time you fear doing something different, that doesn’t mean there is something to fear. But be sure, that there is always something to gain. You’ll never know what you’re missing until you see it. If you don’t do that, later you’ll look back and regret that.

Is failure what you’re really afraid of? Is it?
Have you ever experienced real failure? Not really. The only way to fail in ANYTHING is to give up. And to have the opportunity to give up, you have to first try. And if you don’t give up… surprise, surprise – you can’t fail. You’ve failed when you say you have. And there is no point in doing that, is there?

1. You become a better seller. If you’re in selling, then the change will be profound. Up to now chances are, that you did what you did expecting to get some kind of positive reaction. That’s no longer necessary. Now you’ve got the strong reality, and you aren’t asking your client for anything. Now he wants to be in your reality, and in your reality there is a product he’s currently missing. The client can react negatively, but if that happens, then he never needed your product anyway.

2. You become better at dating. I bet you’re always trying to impress your date when you’re going out. That’s never going to happen. She is much smarter than you, remember that. You can’t fool her, because on some level you are going to show signals, that don’t match with the person who you’re trying to be. She will notice that, be sure of it. So instead of trying to be someone you’re not, be yourself, and be comfortable about it.

3. Personal relationships are much more harmonic. You are not afraid to be who you are. If you were, then you’d hate your relatives/girlfriend/wife for not letting you be who you are. While actually, no one is stopping you. Except yourself that is.

4. You always know where you are going. Most people are doing more than one thing at a time. They are nervous, because they have so much to do, and it never gets done. That’s because they have to think about what other people think of them. As a result they do so many things that cripple them while on their way to their goal.

5. Where you are going is up to you. People will tell you, that you’re now an adult. And as an adult, you have to take care of your responsibilities first, and in what’s left of your time do what you want. That’s bullshit. If you’re married, or in a serious relationship, and you want to change, then just do it. Is it better to be less than what you want to be, only to keep some relationship. And besides, nobody said that your spouse won’t approve your change.

Maybe you’re thinking that this way of living is somewhat egocentric. Well, not really. Are leaders egocentric? People follow them, because they see their integrity. And this is the quality, that will breathe a feeling of safety in every person. That’s priceless. Only when you feel safe, you are able to go for what you desire. What you’ve done is to encourage other people to follow their dreams as well. Now is that really that much egocentric?

Being passionate is one of the most powerful advantages we have as humans. It means complete surrendering of the ego – complete focus on your goal and nothing else. This is what we do intuitively as babies and little kids. Then we learn, that we have to get serious in order for people to see how grown up we are. And then… nothing. That’s not were you should be heading. That’s the way to mediocrity.

Have fun in everything you do. Be the one you want to be all the time. Not because it is the right thing to do, not even because this is the optimal way to achieve. The main reason is: because you enjoy it. Then the only thing that can happen is that your vibe spreads. You make a change everywhere you go, because the power you control is beyond measures. This is the power of a true leader.

So just notice what your life is all about right now. If you’re not noticing things you’re passionate about, this is the first step towards attracting some in your life. Passion is NOT the spice of life, it is what life is all about. Whether you are aware of it or not, everything you accomplished was because you were passionate about it. Never resist that, never pay attention to things and people who suppress your passion – they simply don’t have any clue about life, although they think they’ve got it all figured out. Well, if they had, they would be happy right now. So obvious, so simple.